Grace to Guide

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                                                                         © Joanna Shumaker

        … that which proceeds out of your mouth should be good

for the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.” 

 Eph 4:29

“Don’t you slam your door!” “That was a stupid thing to do, because now you are in more trouble!”  As soon as I said those angry words, I wanted to take them back again.  It may have been wrong for my son to slam his door angrily, but it was just as wrong for me to respond angrily.  I could have used more gracious words in my response to his actions.

As mothers it is very difficult to remember this when our children disobey us, are disrespectful, or stomp off to their rooms!  Our tendency is to demand that this behavior will stop.  We don’t want it to seem as if we are allowing wrong behavior to be acceptable, so we feel that we have to deal with it harshly! Otherwise, how will our children know that this is unacceptable behavior?  In our efforts to discipline we often forget how to graciously guide instead of angrily manipulate.

Paul says in the book of Ephesians, “that which proceeds out of your mouth should be good for the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”  Your children should know the difference between right and wrong behavior, but we should show it to them with grace so that they are built up in their walk of life, not torn down by our angry responses. We are teaching them graciousness even as we discipline them.  May we find the strength from God today to be gracious in our discipline for the edification our children. ©

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3 Comments

  1. Trish said,

    April 27, 2009 at 12:01 pm

    Such a good reminder! I needed to hear that–thanks for the encouragement. Cool Blog! 🙂

  2. Jennifer Motes said,

    April 27, 2009 at 1:26 pm

    Wow – how did you know I needed this? It is truly a challenge to keep the balance. Thanks for the pep talk!

  3. Jamie said,

    April 30, 2009 at 6:23 pm

    Amen! How I need strength to be gracious in my discipline every day!


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